How Much Grief Is Too Much Grief?

Grieving is a necessary part of life. It is a raw expression of feeling loss, disappointment and a longing for what once was or what could have been. What grief is not, is being present to what is possible while overcoming that pain. Actively preparing myself to be sad on a particular day is disempowering and there is no honor in operating that way for me. Whether I am grieving for a lost relationship, or a lost loved one the answer remains the same; I cannot grieve forever.

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Our Parents Beat Us- We Are Better People Because Of It…Or Are We?

Why is beating children a good idea, but we know a husband beating a wife is a bad idea? What are the logical and factual reasons for beating children so badly they have black and blues and welts all over their bodies? Is the lesson; if you do something wrong, you should be punished by getting beaten down? When you fuck up the only recourse is to get hit by anything someone can find so you know never to do that thing again? An adult asserting power in this way is simply abusive and there are no real positive results stemming from a practice rooted in dominance, fear, and total and utter compliance. Why are we spanking toddlers? We do it so they can listen better? How come it’s frowned upon to spank puppies or kittens when they don’t listen, but it’s okay to spank little people who do not speak yet?

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Surviving The Holidays

1. Set a time limit if possible and then get the fuck up out of there.

2. Stand up for yourself when someone is saying some off the wall shit to you. You have a right to check someone for being rude and it’s totally worth it. Don’t back down.

3. Keep yourself sane by doing shit that helps you be calm. Ignore motherfuckers, keep your distance and take breaks from a whole room full of people if you can.

4. Call your person. Make sure you call your person or persons who can help you make it through the rough times. Debrief. Exhale. Release.

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