The routine of good morning texts, wyd texts, and let us make a plan to hang once a week is the antithesis of a slow burn, and I need slow burn. I believe in reaching out when I have something important to say, when I know I want to see him and we create that plan. I prefer to save conversations for in-person connection and taking it from there. Anyone who is a parent, works and has adulting to do is going to be very selective with their time and will want to spend it wisely. I can get behind that idea and take things as they come.Read More The Spark
In fact, the advocacy IS to speak up when bothered and if it’s not understood when I say it tactfully, then I’ll just have to bring out my inner goon and let motherfuckers know that my personal peace trumps whatever the fuck they think of me. Yes, Namaste, the light in me sees the light in you, but Nammafuckyouup, the goon in me sees the shade in you. Do not fuck with me. Come to me respectfully, and I promise I will absolutely do the same. However I will not be muted, silenced or looked over because that’s what someone believes I deserve. I’m going to speak up for myself and that’s just that.Read More Namaste But NammafuckyouUp: Don’t Let The Easy Vibes Fool You
Every opportunity isn’t for everyone, and all spots have to be earned. We carve out our space in this world, choose our communities wisely, and build from the ground up when we weren’t invited to certain tables. Everyone can effectively choose where they will sit and how they will show up in this world based on their sense of self. Everyone at some point will be rejected from tables, however, that’s an opportunity to create your own. Every table isn’t for everybody and if you want to stay at a table there are rules, and if you cannot comply, then you can’t sit here. Period.Read More You Can’t Sit With Us
Yes, you’ll attract assholes, but you will also attract people who will love, honor and lift you up BUT not before you do the consistent work on yourself so you can choose the ones who are a match. You’re beautiful, you attract everyone, but you keep choosing assholes because you keep stopping your self-work to take care of their needs. Sit with that thought for a moment.Read More Your Light Will Attract Everyone, Not Just Assholes
Training myself to prioritize myself has been a steep battle internal struggle. It is literally me practicing self-care by speaking up for myself AND believing that what I am saying matters, is valued and the person hearing me is receiving me with love. It is a real-life struggle to be my own advocate when I know how to advocate for others indiscriminately. However, it is inauthentic to do for others before I can do for myself. It is a dishonest way to direct people to speak for themselves when I stay silent through injustices inflicted upon me. I have to push through the practice of pushing my tears and words down when they are on the verge of my eyes and lips. I must find the same level of compassion I readily have for others for myself.Read More Your Needs Are Valid – You Are Not A Burden
Community policing is a two way street. What exactly do you think can be accomplished if there is straight up animosity when you see any cop? How can this human being who probably has their own shit to deal with, actively deal with animosity directed at them for the sins that some other cop, in some other town did? How do you expect every cop to atone for the sins of the ones who did wrong? You cannot. The same way it is fucking wrong to ever in life assume every person of color is a perp. Stop that. It goes both ways my people. Individual to individual compassion, empathy and overstanding can evoke real change. Being so angry that you forget that a person in front of you is a living, breathing human being just like you, is awful.Read More Fuck The Police?
The conversation was organic, authentic and extremely easy. There wasn’t a whole lot of surface conversation about bullshit, we got right into talking about our projects, our kiddos, our life journeys and just all the important things that drive good conversation forward. He is very easy on the eyes, he has a slighter build than what I normally prefer BUT he’s so damn confident, and easy to talk to, so it didn’t actually matter at all. A couple drinks in me, and I felt more calm and more at ease to act out what I was thinking.Read More Date Grown Ass Men