How Much Grief Is Too Much Grief?

Grieving is a necessary part of life. It is a raw expression of feeling loss, disappointment and a longing for what once was or what could have been. What grief is not, is being present to what is possible while overcoming that pain. Actively preparing myself to be sad on a particular day is disempowering and there is no honor in operating that way for me. Whether I am grieving for a lost relationship, or a lost loved one the answer remains the same; I cannot grieve forever.

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It’s Okay To Feel Lost

But, it is okay. The Alchemist told me some weeks ago that he worries about me overwhelming myself and stressing myself out. He told me that sometimes I have to just allow life to flow without trying to manage all of the thoughts and feelings that are coming out of my mind. Huh! You mean to tell me that I don’t have to worry about any of the things that I am worried about because worrying won’t get me to the answer? Being lost in a sea of not knowing isn’t something I should be freaked out by? It’s okay to not know and I can really just be present to what I do have BUT create a plan so I can take some next steps without short circuiting and going bonkers? I can be the space for peace and ease to flow? EVEN WHEN I FEEL LOST? Shiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiit…..sign me the fuck up.

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Surviving The Holidays

1. Set a time limit if possible and then get the fuck up out of there.

2. Stand up for yourself when someone is saying some off the wall shit to you. You have a right to check someone for being rude and it’s totally worth it. Don’t back down.

3. Keep yourself sane by doing shit that helps you be calm. Ignore motherfuckers, keep your distance and take breaks from a whole room full of people if you can.

4. Call your person. Make sure you call your person or persons who can help you make it through the rough times. Debrief. Exhale. Release.

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