Let’s Talk About *Telephone*Sex

Full disclosure when I was in my 20s I used to really consider working as a phone sex operator because I really think it’s fun, imaginative and you can get as nasty, raunchy and dirty as you’d like with ZERO risks! I’ve been told I have a sexy voice for radio, and phone sex would be a natural segue into my lifestyle, but I never dug into it enough but I haven’t ruled it out. Recently I had a really hot, supernatural, holy fucking shit crazy orgasm while engaging in phone sex, and I swear, my soul left my body. No kidding!!!! I hadn’t had an orgasm like that during actual intercourse in god knows how long, so I definitely didn’t think it was possible via wanking (I’m into the British shows these days) and listening to the voice of a very sexy man who we shall call Mr. Transcendence.

What’s the deal with phone sex? Have any of you actually cum from doing it? I can count on one hand how many times it’s happened, and for some reason, it feels like actual sex sometimes and if I’m not genuinely into the person, it almost feels as cringy as a one night stand after it’s over. But obviously not as bad because there were no bodily fluids exchanged, the energy was exchanged but not actually where it was physical and that’s really important to me. My 20s were a time for all kinds of sex play and it was more physical than mental for sure. At this time of my life though, I’m way more invested in the spiritual and mental connection regarding sex because that’s what drives me. Sex can’t just be about orgasms, there has to be a connection through words, deeds, and interactions involving reciprocity. Do you want to be in my pussy? You gotta be up in this mind. Nowwwwww that said, there are still some men who can get carnal, let’s just fuck rise out of me but it almost always feels kinda wack afterward. The sex may be awesome but the emotional needs are not met and while that’s aight sometimes, it’s not what I want in the long term.

How can telephone sex be hot though? What can make it feel that way? The conversation beforehand, WHAT you talk about and the communication and trust established while you’re learning each other. There has to be a perfect marriage of physical attraction and all of the cerebral and spiritual dynamics. You’d have to be calm, relaxed and in a space of complete trust. You also have to get to a space of fantasy land. Imagining all of the things you’ll do to them, want to have done to you, and put it all out there. If you’re shy, scared or hesitant then the trust hasn’t been established and your phone sex is going to be terrible and awkward. There should be a natural desire to tell your person what you want and they should be able to tell you back. It works for lovers near, far, having sex or never had sex, it’s about the intimacy and trust you’ve been building.

If sex is just about the orgasm for you, then cool but if you are looking for more, something lasting and leaves you full even when you’ve already been depleted of all your energy. This is applicable especially for those who have been in long term relationships and feel as though your sex is kinda dry and mundane. You can bring back the allure, the pleasure and the sexy by playing a game of telephone sex. It can be everything you want if you allow yourself to be open and lean into the nastiness of your erotic fantasies. Your partner is your safe space, raunchy space, heart space and everything in between, if you can’t play and act of fantasies with them then what’s the point of being there?

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