There are many self-help books, gurus and shows on that are looking to support with discovering our purpose. Deepak Chopra and Don Miguel Ruiz are two notable ones who have shaped my personal quest with their books, and guided meditation. In addition to reading their words, regular yoga practice has been instrumental in streamlining my mind and body to a space of calm and focused living. I am also a graduate of the curriculum for living delivered by Landmark Education, a modern version of EST, while some say it is a cult, it has been an incredibly valuable tool for living my life fully and audaciously. Transformation has been a buzzword of mine for close to a decade, and I know what is needed to have a breakthrough, yet sometimes I fall incredibly short. Regardless of everything I have read and practiced, there is nothing more beneficial than having an honest, come to Jesus conversation with myself about the next steps.
I’d imagine that self-help authors have an acute sense of self which would make them experts in their field and while they write objectively, I am sure large parts of their work is subjective. I reccommend The Mastery of Love and The Four Agreements to anyone who asks me about books that have strongly impacted my life. However, what is meaniful and impactful for me, may not necessarily be for another. The events that have lead me tothis point are subjective and personal to me, just like the authors I admire so much. However, what good are books, and a yoga practice if I did not truly pay attention to the lessons being provided by the universe? What good is a self-help book if I didn’t seek out the lesson and only focus on the breakdown or th e fallout of the lesson? Healing takes place when I make room for it to happen.
People in my life often ask me my opinion on life’s questions, and my answer is always subjective. I am not an expert on life, but I am an expert on learning myself. I am not in possession of any more knowledge than anyone else. I do not have answers like that of a sage, but I am forthcoming about my failures, shortcomings and breakdowns BECAUSE that is where I learned how to heal. Lessons regarding heartbreak of every kind provide the access to really finding the light in the abyss of the darkest places. The bits and pieces of myself I have lost are put together in ways that have become sturdier, steadfast, and resiliant. Yes, the words from books help but nothing helps me more than being honest and present to how the pain is opening me up to be more powerful, and also filled with compassion and empathy for my journey, and the journey of others.
Whether you’re having a midlife, post graduation, what’s next, post divorce crisis, the answer is the same; look within. Your story up to this point is what lead you to your big question, and your asnwer is right within your soul. You may think you’re lost, but confusion is a distraction, a self imposed distraction pulling you away from focusing on your truth. You are not confused, you are not focused. Silence the extra voices, and the opinions of others about your truth, how could they know? No one knows ALL the parts of your story but you, and the parts that you refuse to share with others automatically disqualifies anyone else’s opinion of how you should live your fullest life. You can seek guidance, allow words from trusted advisors to marinate yet nothing will resonate with you more than the answers stemming from yourself. You are an expert in yourself, a guru, a sage and you possess all the answers you are seeking. Trust yourself.